Yes. The concept of shame begins very early in our lives. We're taught "don't do this, don't do that." And yes, some of that is necessary, "don't put your hands on a hot element" is good advice. But, "don't wear blue it doesn't suit you" is not. We are taught that if we are different to what someone considers to be the norm, we are wrong. And that's where shame comes from. That's also where Depression and anxiety comes from. It is not wrong, to feel different. Thanks for sharing your thougths here.
Golden rule as always,if you want to help a person more than that person is willing to do for themselves,pull your hands off of it.My old man always told me,trust is good,distrust is better.Sympathy is bad,understanding is better.He wanted soldiers,also for his children to be better than him.I am the son of a gangster,imagine what i am doing 😉
Some people are so poor they only have money. My own shame fresh from this morning: I left home for a four day trip to work in another state. Wife and daughter, 17-months old tomorrow, waited with me on the sidewalk for the Uber to the airport. Car pulls up, kisses and hugs all around, I get in the car. As it pulls away daughter starts crying and running after. It's getting more difficult to leave my family, even though I love my work and facilitate the healing of others with it. But I am hurting my dearest. 🙏❤️
oh god. that is so hard. i cant say i understand because I do not have children yet. but in imagining that, heartbreaking. Maybe an opportunity to do the work you do can evolve in a way where some of it can be done locally or remote, not sure, but hey... might not make you feel any better, but it's an incredibly beautiful thing that you have a daughter that loves you more than anything, and you her. Grief in all forms is Love. love you friend.
Thank you for your perspective. You know already, I am miraculously blessed to have a daughter at my age. I assume synchronicity is always in play; every event is 'perfect'...not blissful, but 'couldn't be any other way' because of the arrangement of universal energy. So being offered an "old soul" to nurture, and she is demonstrating her lineage each and every day, I can do no less than my best to love her and educate her in all manner of esoteric ways. Love you my friend.
Love you too. And thank you for that reminder. "every event is perfect -- not blissful, but couldn't be any other way" --- i can't express how much I needed to see that. Makes me realize I worry way too much at the very least haha. Thank you.
“I don’t say that as a “yay hooray for me” thing- it is fucking devastating to know that nearly all the people I started this journey with are now dead.”
Thank you for writing this. I’ve had so much loss recently I’ve almost become a nonfunctional person. I’m immobilized by the trauma. I’ll get through it, but it sure is hard while I’m in it.
Thank you for sharing this. My heart hurts reading this because I understand it so well. I know what it is to become nonfunctional because of it. It's taken me a long time to start to come out of it, daily process, and yes we will get through it... but it does feel like true hell when you are in it. Just know you are not alone and if I can say anything, it does change. Our pain will change. our lives will change. everything will change. Hang on friend. Please. 🙏
Incredibly intense and honest. It’s true, “we all have monsters in our labyrinth,” or ‘ghosts from the past’ we need to work on. I’ve never known addiction in whatever form, but ghosts from my past, yes.
Your introduction to kundalini yoga, meditation and your wake-up calls have allowed me to make them vanish into the sun.
😭 i just now read this. thank you so much for sharing this with me. i am extremely honored and grateful that i've been able to positively impact your life. That is everything.
Yes. The concept of shame begins very early in our lives. We're taught "don't do this, don't do that." And yes, some of that is necessary, "don't put your hands on a hot element" is good advice. But, "don't wear blue it doesn't suit you" is not. We are taught that if we are different to what someone considers to be the norm, we are wrong. And that's where shame comes from. That's also where Depression and anxiety comes from. It is not wrong, to feel different. Thanks for sharing your thougths here.
Thank you for sharing yours. 🙏
Golden rule as always,if you want to help a person more than that person is willing to do for themselves,pull your hands off of it.My old man always told me,trust is good,distrust is better.Sympathy is bad,understanding is better.He wanted soldiers,also for his children to be better than him.I am the son of a gangster,imagine what i am doing 😉
Some people are so poor they only have money. My own shame fresh from this morning: I left home for a four day trip to work in another state. Wife and daughter, 17-months old tomorrow, waited with me on the sidewalk for the Uber to the airport. Car pulls up, kisses and hugs all around, I get in the car. As it pulls away daughter starts crying and running after. It's getting more difficult to leave my family, even though I love my work and facilitate the healing of others with it. But I am hurting my dearest. 🙏❤️
oh god. that is so hard. i cant say i understand because I do not have children yet. but in imagining that, heartbreaking. Maybe an opportunity to do the work you do can evolve in a way where some of it can be done locally or remote, not sure, but hey... might not make you feel any better, but it's an incredibly beautiful thing that you have a daughter that loves you more than anything, and you her. Grief in all forms is Love. love you friend.
Thank you for your perspective. You know already, I am miraculously blessed to have a daughter at my age. I assume synchronicity is always in play; every event is 'perfect'...not blissful, but 'couldn't be any other way' because of the arrangement of universal energy. So being offered an "old soul" to nurture, and she is demonstrating her lineage each and every day, I can do no less than my best to love her and educate her in all manner of esoteric ways. Love you my friend.
Love you too. And thank you for that reminder. "every event is perfect -- not blissful, but couldn't be any other way" --- i can't express how much I needed to see that. Makes me realize I worry way too much at the very least haha. Thank you.
“I don’t say that as a “yay hooray for me” thing- it is fucking devastating to know that nearly all the people I started this journey with are now dead.”
Oft-reminded. Too often. 🙏
👏👏👏💥🔥🤟❤️
Thank you for writing this. I’ve had so much loss recently I’ve almost become a nonfunctional person. I’m immobilized by the trauma. I’ll get through it, but it sure is hard while I’m in it.
Thank you for sharing this. My heart hurts reading this because I understand it so well. I know what it is to become nonfunctional because of it. It's taken me a long time to start to come out of it, daily process, and yes we will get through it... but it does feel like true hell when you are in it. Just know you are not alone and if I can say anything, it does change. Our pain will change. our lives will change. everything will change. Hang on friend. Please. 🙏
Incredibly intense and honest. It’s true, “we all have monsters in our labyrinth,” or ‘ghosts from the past’ we need to work on. I’ve never known addiction in whatever form, but ghosts from my past, yes.
Your introduction to kundalini yoga, meditation and your wake-up calls have allowed me to make them vanish into the sun.
You are such a beautiful person 💙💫🥰🤗😘
😭 i just now read this. thank you so much for sharing this with me. i am extremely honored and grateful that i've been able to positively impact your life. That is everything.
Needed to see this! Thanks for sharing this intensely truthful piece! Love you!
Love you too dear friend 🙏 ❤️
I definitely needed to read this today. Thanks, Tess. Love you. 💕
Love you too.
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