The Woman who WON the Game of Life

This is what teaches us the truth of why we are here. Look to the legacies people leave behind, and learn from them. Look to the false world, and do the opposite.

So, what do you want your legacy to be?

The woman who WON life is my Aunt Rosalie. She passed away in the final days of 2022. She was also the catalyst for me starting this publication. I’ll explain why.

When she died, that marked the 9th person who had passed away in the last 18 months for me — and when I say 9 people, I’m not just talking about “people I know”, these were all very close friends, or in her case, family.

What made her passing so unique was this:

She died surrounded by her children, husband, and siblings. She died surrounded by people she loved. She got to say goodbye. She did not die alone.

How is that not indicative of the meaning of life and what is truly important? How is that not the ultimate win?

It is.

Everyone else I know who has died throughout my life… 95% of them have been overdoses/suicides. They are never situations where the person died hearing “I love you” as their last things on earth, or saying “I love you” as their last words.

It is unbelievably tragic, but the fact remains: most people who I know have died suddenly, died alone, and in some cases it took some time before their body was even found. In one case, the body still has not been found. It breaks my heart to write that, but it’s the truth. We have an addiction crisis, a mental health crisis, a violence crisis, and a poisoning of society from all angles crisis.

It is because of this contrast that I was able to see so clearly what things are supposed to be versus what they so often are, due to widespread collective dysfunction.

I’ve never seen a death like the one my Aunt Rosalie had. That was the best way I could possibly think of to go out. Yes, she was in pain, and for that I am not happy about, but I am happy that she lived a full life where she showed so much love that it was reflected in how it was returned to her— even to her last breath. I have never seen that before in my life, someone transitioning out of this life with so much love.

She was honored appropriately because of that. If you knew her, you’d know how full of love she was. I can’t imagine what it would be like to have lived her life, to have stayed in the same loving marriage her whole life, to have had really awesome kids (obviously I’m bias because her kids are my cousins, but they actually are really awesome) and to have also maintained relations successfully with her siblings.

Everyone reading this knows how rare that is in todays world.

A lot of us can’t even fathom it.

Maintaining connection and meaningful relationships over the course of a lifetime?! Most people can’t even handle that for more than six months, and that’s probably being generous with that estimate.

I don’t say this to bash on today’s world or people. I say it because we all know it’s true. I bring up my Aunt’s life and death because it is a reminder of what is still possible.

We often get so caught up in meaningless shit that we don’t realize we will one day have our last breath, and that we will one day be nothing more than whatever legacy we leave behind, which is 100% dependent upon our actions (and inactions).

That’s one of the main reasons why this publication is called Memento Mori Alchemy. Memento Mori means “Remember, you die” in Latin. Remembering our mortality can put us on the path to Alchemy (transforming) because if we feel any of the following things, we can immediately begin transforming them after we remember that our time is finite here:

-If you were to leave this world today, what legacy would you leave behind? Are you satisfied with that? If not, what can you do to change that? What kind of legacy do you want to leave?

-Are you on the terms you want to be with everyone who is important to you? Are there things you’d want to say on your death bed that you wouldn’t be able to say because whoever you want to say them to wouldn’t be there? I realize that’s a pretty rough question to ask, but it can help us resolve a lot of conflict - OR - think twice before we create it. We too often take the people in our lives for granted. I am very guilty of this myself.

-If this were your last year on Earth, are you concerning yourself with the things that are actually important to you? Do they tie into the legacy you want to leave behind? Do they align with your souls mission? Or are we consumed with trivial nonsense, chasing shiny objects, wasting time not being honest with who we really are and what we really want, and arguing over “politics” on the internet?

What my Aunt’s passing taught me was that love and connection are the most valuable things in life. We often think we have to have all this material success in order to “win” at life— as if we have to be “at the top” just to feel “equal”.

My Aunt’s example outshined any amount of material success this world has to offer. You cannot put a price on being surrounded by people who love you as you take your final breaths. You cannot put a price on transitioning from one life to the next in the company and protection of the ones you love the most. You cannot put a price on having lived a life based on love and family. There is nothing better than that.

If you want further proof, look to the world. The 3D. Everything about it distracts us from this. That is how this world operates, creating and exploiting the void within us.

Why is there a void? Because the individual is emphasized to an extremely unhealthy degree and from there all hell breaks loose. I believe in individuality of course, but the way it’s encouraged in this society is basically hermit narcissism. You have to be unhappy in order for the parasitic system to continue sucking the life out of you. So if you want to know the path to fulfillment, do the opposite of what the world tells you to do.

The world now tells women to forgo having families, relationships, marriages, etc. so they can pursue a career instead.

The world has been telling men that their value as a man comes from how much money they earn.

Both of these things lead to isolation so you can better serve the banking cartels.

Both are centered around abandoning connection to pursue a full-time role in pouring all of your life energy into an economy based on FAKE MONEY - it’s literally backed by nothing other than a shared delusion that it has value. It is a debt based system of enslavement, and we abandon the thing that matters most in life to stay entangled in it forever.

That’s what society conditions men and women to value over everything and everyone, including their own health. This is why I say do the opposite. If you want to know what really sets you free, do the opposite of what the system tells you to do. Value the opposite of what it tells you to value. It is not created by you and it is not created to serve you. You think it does, but it’s here to make you a slave. Nothing more.

Guess what though? We don’t have to do that shit! You can start living differently today. We all can.

So, what kind of legacy do you want to leave?

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~In Memory of Rosalie Diana, who for 34 years of my life, showed me nothing but love, adoration and kindness. Never once did she speak a word of harm or indifference to me. She spoke only Love. I am a better person because I knew her. That is the greatest gift anyone can give, and she did it unconditionally.~

Thank you Uncle Bill for sending me this picture, and all the others. They mean the world to me.

-Tess