One Star in Sight 🌟

An open letter to people in toxic relationships or life circumstances:

One star in sight is a reference to your soul. It’s a phrase to remind us of our primary purpose, something I find necessary in a world full of so much noise and delusion.

It is the arrow pointing us toward the direction of our High Destiny, our Great Work, the reason we incarnated here.

Our Dharma, purpose, and our fulfillment and inner contentment, our Santokh.

I also find it applicable for a particular situation many have experienced, and continue to experience, so this article will be an open letter to anyone in an abusive or toxic situation in their life that they feel they cannot get away from.

In this new paradigm, this new consciousness, the spiritual formula, which are the spiritual formulas of old, are to regain access to our soul and our true purpose, working back to The Infinite.

We’re in a paradigm where the spiritual formula is more about empowerment. I’m emphasizing that now, more than ever, we’re in the history of humanity where the individuals now have access to all the tools, and we’re more empowered, so how are we empowering ourselves during this intensity?

The Magickal teaching is: A. The Law is for All (Love is the Law) and B. Truth and Liberation for All Mankind.

We’re in the first nano-seconds of this consciousness, so we’re seeing old Piscean age / old Age of Osiris Magick — these old power structures are imploding, and we’re seeing the end of this war consciousness, and this old paradigm still wants to battle itself out.

You still should be protected and aware because old paradigm consciousness wants to try to take you out. And dark forces want to take you out. I’m seeing more and more people succumb to dark forces, whether it’s just through apathy, inertia, or indifference, or “Oh, I’m angry and pissed off, I have the right to be brutally violent against you.”

We have a saying in Magick called “One Star In Sight”. That is your Soul. That is your Great Work. So when we get more aligned, that’s the thing that is going to provide the fulfilling and satisfying life. Nothing else can fulfill that.

-Remington Donovan.

First off, shoutout to Remington Donovan, he’s a G, and I highly recommend his content on Patreon. It has helped me tremendously over the years. He also has a podcast called The Mystical Artists, found on all podcast platforms.

Alright, let’s get into it:

There’s one thing I want to elaborate on before I move further into an open letter to people who are in “situations” that are destroying them.

First off:

I’ve shared a lot about astrological events and the effects they have on the individual and the collective, as well as how to leverage these energies to propel oneself in a positive direction of growth and evolution. However…

Here’s what I will NEVER say, and here’s what concerns me a lot regarding the way things like astrology (and several other vehicles for interpreting our life experience) can often be abused or misused by people:

Astrological events are never reasons for why something occurs in a vacuum, or why you’re being an asshole, or why that other person is acting like an asshole.

Planets are not emotional, their energy operates on PRINCIPLE.

When they come around and make certain aspects above us, think of it as getting a check run on your life in regards to whatever principles are in question, depending on the transit/event.

What I’m saying is, they amplify and expose, they do not create out of nowhere.

What I’m also saying is this:

🚨 Please do not use astrological events as a reason to justify living in horrific conditions and enabling garbage behavior within yourself and those around you.

It’s not the planets, it’s y’all, the astrological alignments are just a magnifying glass onto what already is, they aren’t pulling your strings like you’re an inanimate puppet. 🚨

Onto the dynamics of abuse and toxicity I am seeing at increased rates, and myself am VERY familiar with. I recently left such a situation, and it wasn’t my first rodeo either:

I remember being in a really abusive relationship, and when I was talking about some of the horrible shit going on to a VERY select few, I do remember being told something like “well remember there’s 6 planets in retrograde right now” and it’s like yeah, there are, and these planetary aspects come along to check on the quality of these areas of our lives based on principles like love and honesty. They don’t manifest dishonesty and abuse, unless the individual already has a strong tendency toward dishonesty and abuse. They do not create what wasn’t already there.

If those principles like love and honesty aren’t there, which they certainly aren’t in an abusive relationship, then the heat is going to get turned up a little bit more to catch ones attention, as if to say, hey, get the fuck out of that situation before it kills you.

It is NOT a reason to stay in an abusive relationship or to even have “tolerance” for the abuse, just because Venus along with 5 other planets were in retrograde. Venus retrograde does not make honest, loving, stable people into vile, deceitful, hateful abusers. NEVER.

What it will do is make it extremely obvious when you have the latter in your vicinity, or if you yourself are one.

If you’re straight, you’re straight. — straight as in, a person with morality, balance, harmony, honesty and love.

Not to say there’s not always things to work on or old stuff might not come up, but I highly doubt you’re going to start ruining the lives of everyone around you because a planet is in retrograde.

Does this make sense? I hope so.

I’ve been guilty of doing all kinds of shit to dodge personal responsibility in my life. And when it comes to relationships that can be especially difficult, especially when abuse is present - the level of delusion and stockholm syndome is maddening, which is why it’s so hard to leave and why recidivism rates for people returning to their abusers are so high.

All I’m saying is, let’s stop blaming irrelevant shit for the cause of people acting like garbage humans.

If someone displays immoral or harmful behavior on a constant or cyclical basis (cyclical is still constant btw, just constantly up-and-down so you think it isn’t constant) there’s NOTHING anyone can do about it, except decide if they want to be that persons human punching bag for the rest of their lives or not.

Beauty and The Beast is Disney propaganda.

You cannot love someone into right living - you cannot love someone out of their own self hatred - and compassion is great, but that’s mostly so we don’t have to live in a state of resentment and spew poison alongside them, it is NOT meant to stand by and justify their shitty behavior and be used as an excuse for why we aren’t living our lives — because we’re waiting on them to change.

They won’t, and if they do, it won’t be because of your overwatch. Also, who is on overwatch for your life? Just as you cannot serve two masters, you also cannot live two lives.

I know the world is scary, but if you’re someone in one of these situations, for the love of christ please take some personal space to consider if this is how you want to spend your life, and if you’re okay with your life being sucked dry of all of its joy and vitality (best case scenario) and if you’re okay with this person and this relationship being listed as the cause of death on your death certificate (worst case/more likely scenario).

Are you willing to let this person take your life?

People in these situations often want to die, so you might be.

But if this person is willing to take your life, they don’t love you. They don’t care. They might in little bread-crumbing ways, but in totality? None of that matters. Even if they love you fully to the best of their ability, that ability clearly isn’t good enough if this is your reality:

If your world is in a constant state of upheaval that is causing every aspect of your life and experience in it to suffer tremendously, why are you putting yourself through that? That is not harmony, partnership, fulfilling or love. That is chaos, which sometimes we can confuse for love, due to the intense rushes of cortisol and dopamine to our brains that accompany a rollercoaster.

Oftentimes yes, you may also truly love this person - not taking that from anyone. I’m just saying, what happens when you give all your love to someone else and there’s none left for you? What do you think happens to you and even the quality of the love you have to give? You become depleted and you become someone you don’t even recognize.

Everything decays in a scenario of dysfunctional or absent reciprocity.

If you’ve truly gone down to the depths in this situation, try this:

Go look at yourself in the mirror. Do you recognize yourself? If not, time to prioritize that. You’re a lot farther down the scale than you realize.

BTW, you don’t have to have the answers right now, you just have to know if you want to keep living like this or not.

I know the world is scary right now and it’s a lot easier to get into these types of relationships because of that.

It’s easier to fall into a poverty or lack mentality in the department of love and human connection, due to the human depravity broadcasted to us on a constant basis.

So, we hold on even tighter, because we think there will be no one else if we leave. Or we feel like we’ve fallen so low and lost so much of who we once were, that if we lose one more thing, we won’t survive the heartbreak and grief.

I get that.

I’ve been there more than once in my life. What I can tell you is… EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. I made the decision to walk away from something I thought I couldn’t live without, and made the decision to chose myself over someone I actually genuinely DID LOVE very much, my life exploded with new people, places, things, opportunities, and I was always fine — matter of fact I was MORE than fine.

It set me on a path better than the one I was on with the person, that’s for certain, and it also sent me on a path better than the one I was on before I even met the person.

I have also done this entirely BLIND, and more than once. Gone to an area I’d never been to before where I knew nobody. If this is your only option, I know how scary it is, but you CAN do it.

I’ve also had a situation where I reached out to a family member I hadn’t seen in 20+ years, and they helped me get away. They literally saved my life. It’s easy to tell ourselves we have no one in these scenarios. You’ll be surprised who will show up for you.

🙏 So leap, and the net will appear. Keep one star in sight. That star is the reason why you incarnated into this life. That star is your dharma, your santokh, your high destiny, Love with a capital L, Truth with a capital T, that star is you. That star is your life. Please choose it. 🙏

At the very least, remember that it still exists. And if you are in a toxic life situation or a toxic relationship… remember a time in your life, any time, when you were free, and you feel like you were at your highest expression of yourself.

Remember that person, because that person still exists. And a version of you exists that you haven’t even met yet. Please don’t deny yourself this.

I know these situations are complex and agonizing. You don’t have to have everything figured out at once. All you have to know is, do I want to live?

If the answer is “No, I want to die” let me ask you this:

Do you truly want to die, or do you just want the current life you are living to end? Because there is a huge difference between wanting to be DEAD as in lights the fuck out no more, versus “I just don’t want to live this life anymore” — because if it’s the second one, you’re in a very fortunate space.

That desperation and agony from being chained to a life you hate will be the fuel you will use to create a new one.

You do not need to know what that life is going to look like. All you need to know is the first step: where are you going to go to ensure you are in a safe place, how are you going to get there, and what resources do you have in regards to your protection, basic needs, and ideally maybe a friend or a family member to help you with the transition.

If you do not have these things, I would highly suggest reaching out to DV shelters, various non-profits that deal with these scenarios and help people for free, or if you have some money/health insurance/a credit card even, seek help from a therapist who specializes in whatever you are going through.

I’ve had to do all of the above mentioned. One step at a time. First step was always, how do I escape. You do NOT have to know what it is going to look like once you get there. Just get there, if you’re ready.

If not, maybe save this article, and read it again the next time you feel like you’re ready to put a gun to your head because you can’t take the agony of your situation anymore.

You do not have to live this way, but I understand very much how hard it is to leave. So just keep the article, and maybe gather a resource or two. Maybe try telling someone in your life the truth of what is going on.

Just remember, One Star In Sight, that star is not the other person or the situation or whatever… that star is YOU.